There’s also this assumption that black guys are always a ‘top’ during sex (the penetrative partner) – which is just another stereotype. This is just a small fraction of the types of unsolicited messages I receive and if I don’t live up to this fantasy of being a hypersexual black stud with a big dick, I am immediately rendered dispensable and stop hearing from them. Other examples include: ‘I’m craving a black guy or a group of black guys’ ‘I’m in my car and fancy a big black c**k in my mouth’ or ‘is it true what they say about black guys’. Often the first message I get sent is: ‘BBC?’ (which stands for big black c**k, a common phrase in the porn industry) or ‘hung?’. For instance, constant references to my gigantic penis – I don’t have one, but I’m black and so apparently it’s a given – is usually the focus of interactions.
